~Pema Chodron, When Things Fall Apart
The way I practice this is by using my world as a mirror. When the reflection isn’t so pretty then I know that there is an opportunity to work on something in myself. If I am aware and awake to it, I can attempt to release the energy that is manifesting in a less than positive way and possibly remove deep seated emotional blockages.
This happened last week. I had an appointment with my eye doctor. You would think that would be benign enough, but there was a lot of tension between us right off the bat. He wanted me to get new glasses, and I was not budging. In fact the situation made me angry, and I could tell that he was miffed.
My anger had nothing to do with his suggestion to buy glasses and tapped into a lot difficult situations I have had with all kinds of health professionals. Specifically, it brought up one of the last such experiences I had on a visit to the emergency room for my son when I got “into it” with the head physician of the emergency room. Interestingly, when I left the emergency room, there was a tv showing the interview with the Dalai Lama that occurred in February. I couldn’t hear the sound, but just seeing his face gave me an incredible sense of peace and I was filled with so much gratitude for the gift of the Dalai Lama.
Instead of feeding the anger and creating more tension, I recognized what was going on and asked myself what I could do in the moment to release this energy. I took a breath and then began consciously sending the eye doctor positive energy and love with each breath. He had his back to me as he was entering information into a computer. With each breath, I said to myself ‘we are the same’ (I chose this mantra because I was sensing that the root cause of our issue was our differences). Within 3 minutes of this conscious work, the mood shifted completely and we ended up discovering something we had in common that was very important to both of us. The rest of the appointment was great until I got the bill (smile), and I recognized the eye doctor as the gift he is to world and was grateful for the opportunity I had to release negative energy in a gentle and loving way.
I feel that kindness is quite possibly the most important act we may encounter in this life. Imagine a day where we radiated nothing but kindness. Now of course, we are human, which means we all make mistakes…even un kind ones, however, if when we made those mistakes we stopped and became kind…could you imagine what the world could be like?!
The first step of this path lies within our selves. It’s a sticky path. It’s not always easy. As I have broken out of my shell, searching deep within for my own personal truth, it has been far from smooth sailing at times. Each step of the way allows for a great amount of kindness to grow. As we proceed, and fall back, it is so important to be open with ourselves, and trust that we are learning what we need to be learning in those moments. The situations placed before us are there with a great amount of reason and give us the opportunity to pause fully and think about not only ourselves, but our world as a whole.
The feelings we feel are directly linked with those elsewhere, on another level, and are being radiated by our planet and beyond. Once we fully accept our selves and our mission, we can use these opportunities to reach out beyond our own being and help others radiating truth and kindness the whole way. How cool is that?