In Courtney's words:
In October, my intention was to get through homework each night without losing my patience.
I'm pleased to say that this worked better than I ever could have imagined! Whenever I felt myself getting all tensed up in reaction to my daughter's amped up behavior, I called on this intention to bring me back to a quieter place where I could help her in a more kind and gentle manner. Since I wasn't getting upset, I found that she got less upset and could 'power down' a little easier. Homework is still no picnic, but it is MUCH better. I'm going to continue to practice this consciously peaceful behavior during the homework hours from now on, because it's just better for us.
I also started bringing us to the couch, away from the kitchen table where the homework is done, when she starts freaking out. Once we're on the couch we can touch, she can sit in my lap, put her head on my shoulder and we can just get back to how much we love each other. It takes the 'sting' out of her mood and we can get back to doing our best at the homework table.
Our home is more peaceful now because of this and we're happier. Phew!
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Thank you so much to Courtney who shared her wonderful discovery of how important it is to find that close connection with our children, in all of life's situations, homework time included!
I love that the simple solution of changing the location to a more comfortable spot has brought peace to this situation and to your lives. Thank you so much for this inspiration! It really is a perfect example of how even small steps towards peace can be powerful.
ReplyDeleteI like the idea of taking one thing and working to make that better. I did that with toothbrushing and I can't tell you how much more peaceful our lives are because of it. It just can't be underestimated. E.
ReplyDeleteFor us, it's the very little things that matter toward making peace. As my beautiful daughter grows up and interacts with the world, if her demeanor is peaceful, she's bound to have an effect in the world. I'd like her energy to be peaceful- this is where it will start....on the couch with a hug.
ReplyDeleteNamaste-